Dissatisfaction with others is, in reality, a reflection of one's own inadequacy. Throughout life, people strive to prove themselves, seeking success and recognition in various aspects. However, the people from whom we are often least willing to accept ourselves are our close family members, such as parents, siblings, and relatives. As a result, many people direct their desire for validation towards these loved ones, hoping to gain their approval and affirmation.
This phenomenon is largely a consequence of some flaws and outdated aspects in the Chinese education system. For a long time, Chinese education has emphasized authority and obedience, leading many individuals to develop a dependency on authority and a craving for the approval of others during their formative years. This educational approach can result in people being more susceptible to the expectations and demands of their loved ones, creating a psychological pressure to constantly prove themselves.
However, the control and expectations imposed by family members, whether consciously or unconsciously, are things we should discard. Firstly, each person has their own path and values, and should not be constrained by the expectations of others. We should encourage one another to pursue our own dreams and goals, rather than blindly seeking the approval of others. Secondly, true growth and success should come from inner satisfaction and self-fulfillment, not from reliance on the evaluations and recognition of others.
Therefore, we need to reevaluate and adjust our relationships with our family members, breaking free from the excessive need for their approval. By engaging in self-reflection and self-improvement, we can better understand our own worth and potential, thus moving forward in life with greater confidence and determination. Only in this way can we truly overcome dissatisfaction with others and feelings of inadequacy, and achieve the maximization of our self-worth.
-- Billy
对他人的不满，实际上是对自己无能的反映。人的一生都在努力证明自己，试图在各个方面取得成功和认可。然而，人们往往最不愿意接受自己的是身边的亲人，如父母、兄弟和姐妹。因此，许多人会将证明自己的目标转向这些亲人，希望得到他们的认可和肯定。
