I have tried to change my wife, to stand in my position to change,
but later found that my approach is extremely foolish.
The stupidest thing in the world is to change others,
because from the wife's point of view, she has no problem with the whole thing.
So my conclusion is:
Think about everything from the other side's standpoint.
Think more about the benefits of others, find more reasons to change themselves,
change their mentality, position, to say what he likes to hear,
what he is willing to listen to, so that communication will be more in place,
life should live for themselves.
You can't take blame as a habit or an excuse,
because you won't be able to pull it out.
At the same time,
we should think from our own point of view that people should live for themselves,
so that there will be no excuses,
so that there will be a lot of sunshine in life, and the easier it is for you to understand others.
After rational and in-depth communication, we find that we are all excellent, and we can understand each other from the heart.
我曾尝试去改变我的妻子，想站在我的立场上去改变，后来发现我的做法是极其愚蠢的。
这个世界上最愚蠢的一件事情就是去改变别人，因为从妻子的立场来看整件事情，她是没有问题的。
所以我总结就是:
凡事要站在对方的立场上想一想。
多想他人的好处，多找自己的理由，去改变自己，改变自己的心态，立场，去讲他喜欢听的话，愿意听的话，这样沟通会更到位，生活要为自己而活。
不能把责怪当成习惯和借口，因为你会从中拔不出来。
同时,
也要从自己的角度出发去想，人要为自己而活，这样不会有借口，这样生活里会有很多阳光，你也越容易理解别人。
经过理性地深度地沟通后，我们发现，原来我们都很优秀，我们都能去从心理解对方。
